The person nagging either wants the person they are nagging to align with the problem as they see it, or they want the person to take the action they want.
It can become more repetitive if they don’t feel seen or heard.
The problem with nagging is the person on the receiving end hears negative energy + criticism + no appreciation for what they do that’s good.
Now they feel resentment and will attach that bad energy to the person nagging.
So instead of achieving a caring alignment which is what the nagging person wants what they really create is a bigger divide.
So if you want a person to increase their desire to ignore you and what’s important to you – NAG them!
Nagging is the perfect way to switch off a person’s interest in you.
The nagged partner will either fight back or submit and either way, resent their partner so it eventually kills a couple’s connection.
Many people who have used nagging as a model to get through have reactively said then I won’t say anything.
This answer isn’t a solution either.
The starting point is to recognise what you are doing isn’t working and needs to change to a way that is effective.
