Many couples wonder if coming to relationship coaching sessions will work and is it worth the effort?
- What if you’ve had years of problems, fighting and going round in circles?
- What if through all your problems intimacy in your relationship had disappeared years before and is now also just another problem to add to the list.
- What if you’ve even tried counselling and it hasn’t worked and now it looks like the only option is divorce and the break up of a young family.
With so much certainty that breaking up was their only option, this couple decided to see if relationship coaching could save their family…
After a few sessions this is the email I received from them today!
Subject: Thank You
Stephen
I wanted to write to say thank you. There has been a huge turning point in our relationship. We have both worked really hard at following your advice and I have started to allow myself to get close to D physically. We are taking that side of things really slowly as I have many years’ anxiety to overcome but I finally feel that not only can we have a marriage free of the destructive fighting and power struggles we’ve endured for the past few years but we can also have a marriage with physical as well as emotional intimacy.
We both know that to sustain this will require continued efforts on both our parts but you have given us the tools to work with and that is more than half the battle. From where we were a few months ago – with the house on the market and divorce lawyers consulted – to where we are now feels nothing short of a miracle. We both realise that there is still so much love and so much worth saving. It was just all disguised under fear, anger, resentment, loneliness and feelings of disconnect and hopelessness.
Your skill as a coach is very special. Anyone who has tried traditional counselling and failed (as we had) should definitely try you before throwing in the towel.
With very best wishes
Grace – London
