If you want to ensure you keep your relationship alive, this is important to know. 100% of couples that come to me share this problem and many of them believe that their only option is to split-up, or divorce.
I totally agree that not all couples are designed to be together, but I also know, because I see it everyday that many relationships can be saved once they know how to do this one critical thing.
- In fact some couples discover they only need one session with me, once they understand the most obvious reason why they are both in trouble with each other.
Before I share this I want you to cast your mind back to when you first met and what lead you to decide that your partner was right for you. You see this one critical thing was present when you first met each other. What happens with most couples is not their fault, because they don’t know what is really working and so they stop doing it as time passes, and life takes over. Work pressure, money, children, friends, parents, hobbies everything starts to take over and the relationship takes a back seat.
So what you both did that worked has now stopped dead. The relationship stopped growing months, or even years before and even though you noticed a shift, it didn’t worry you until you started to feel that something was very wrong.
Some people have physical symptoms that join in to make the worry seem worse, churning stomach, numbness, empty feeling, face hurting, neck hurting, back problems etc…
For those that experience these types of feelings your body is giving you a clear message to make a change in your life, because it is picking up that you may not be safe where you are.
At this point most people go to destruction of the relationship as they assume that is the change that’s needed.
What’s needed and what most couple stop doing is this critical but simple action: They stopped meeting each others NEEDS.
- This is the N0.1 reasons why couples break-up!
If your partner feels that you no longer want to meet their needs in the way they want them met, it does not take long for the relationship to grind to a halt. This is dangerous because when couples enter this place, they will through fear start to trade for what they need. This builds resentment and can result in a loss of passion. Loss of passion then leads to lack of respect, and the end is never far away at this point.
You might read that loss of passion/sexual intimacy is the top reason why couples split. Whilst that ended up being the focus of the problem this is not the core issue.
Loss of intimacy in a relationship is just one of the many symptoms that couples experience when their needs are not met. Arguments, power struggles, jealousy, affairs, porn, gambling, holding love back, punishing, controlling, controlling mothers and fathers, the list is endless.
It really boils down to this one key area: NEEDS: If your partners needs are not met they will have to get them met elsewhere. Needs are not nice to haves they are critical.
- My advice find out fast and if you need help please don’t hesitate to call me.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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