Feeling out of control of your life is a terribly scary place to be. People can feel out of control in so many ways helping them to feel depressed, powerless, worthless they could feel unloved, depressed, anxious.
These feelings all can lead someone to feel unable to make decisions that make sence so they live in a place that helps them to feel stuck.
People can start to feel that whatever they choose they will feel unhappy and so feelings of hopelessness start to take over.
This can happen at work, in relationships, with family in fact in almost any life condition that is import to the person.
How can a person have confidence in their ability to make a decision, if they have a history of bad decisions. Or maybe they think they have done everything right, yet the result has always felt bad for them.
- Living this way can really knock a persons confidence.
Are you lacking confidence in your Relationship, Job, or any other critical part of your life?
If so, it really does not have to be this way.
There are very simple ways to get to key information within you, that will help you to understand why life is not winnable for YOU!
Once you understand why you think the way you do, building that confidence is easy as you understand how your mind works and how to get the best from it.
This process is easy to learn and once learnt can be used to help you in many situations that are either confusing, or don’t feel right.
One young man I helped last year discovered that he lacked adventure in his life with his current partner. He was actually considering leaving her and going back to his ex because he felt there was more passion with his ex.
We discovered that his version of passion was met through the feeling of risk. He liked this feeling of risk, but was horrified when he discovered to him it meant specifically the possibility to lose the relationship. To make matters worse to experience growth in his relationship he also needed to feel risk.
So without knowing he associated relationship growth with the possibility of losing the relationship.
This clear contradiction helped him to feel stuck and very depressed, damned if he stayed with his current relationship, damned if he left to be with his ex.
He was actually thinking about being on his own just to get some peace, but couldn’t do that either as he feared loneliness, rejection and feeling unloved.
He had trapped himself and just to compound this further, LOVE was his most important value, but was conditional on him being able to trust his decisions, which of course he couldn’t.
- Depression was not far away if he had carried on with this way of living.
By understanding himself and the muddle he had got himself into, his confidence grew 100 fold in just one session.
If you would like to gain more freedom and success in your life get a confidence coach today!
