So many people who discover their partners' affair are shocked at why they are not running or kicking them out. They were convinced an affair would
Why is being in love so hard?
The truth is that when done right being in love is the most rewarding place to be. Sadly many couples struggle to keep their love alive and they
The mirror of destruction pattern
Many couples are suffering from a mirroring pattern that disables their ability to grow together. The mirroring pattern happens when one person
People who are always trying to be right?
One group of people I bump into whilst helping couples out of their crisis are the ones that are hell-bent on being right. In fact being right for
My partner needs to change!
In their droves, people with marital problems come to me wanting me to change their partners' behaviors. In fact, many people come to me
“It’s like watching two kids squabbling”
There are many occasions when I’ve see grown adults squabbling like a couple of kids, all red-faced, puffed up, and trying to be right. These
A thought for Sunday
What if men and women are not naturally designed to live together for life in a box called a home. Over the past 17 years of doing this job, I have
An Intimacy Conundrum
Keeping the passion alive in a long-term marriage is dependant on understanding the relationship between two critical elements that most couples are
The cost of NOT hearing a cry for help
What do you do when one person says the relationship is not working and they need help and the other says there is nothing wrong with it and they are
Triggered?
Out of control, emotional triggers can be at the root of so many couples ending their relationships. With a shift of understanding the couples
“If you change yourself, you can change your life…”
This is probably one of the best pieces of advice I was ever given and massively affected my life direction and my own marriage. After all, it’s so
Effective communication for couples…
One of the biggest problems that couples face is in their inability to communicate in a way that creates a foundational emotional connection. So