Listening to so many couple's stories a person becoming defensive is a typical pattern I see every day. If someone is defending themselves then in
The Punishment Model
I know many people use a model of punishing their partner when they have done something they perceive to be wrong or upsetting. The problem with
Expectations kill relationships
To understand why expectations can kill relationships we are going to firstly look at the formula for being upset? A person becomes upset when the
Can’t communicate? Find out why today…
Why do so many couples find it impossible to communicate, what is causing the problems that so many couples struggle with? Communication on the
“My marriage has changed me and I’m suffering”!
If you want to build a successful marriage you’ll need the courage to be who you really are with your husband or wife. Many people are fearful of
All Roads Lead to Rome – “It’s Always About Me”!
Have you ever noticed that no matter what the problem is there are people who always manage to make any problem about them. It doesn't matter where
Unhealthy conflict couples suffer the most…
Unhealthy Conflict problems? Marriages that last are the ones that experience adversity and come out the other side more connected. If a couple can
The Win-Win process for couples in crisis
Couples seeking marital help will naturally fit into a few camps. From both people knowing they are making the marriage worse, but don't know what
Why don’t business people see this..?
My marriage in crisis service naturally attracts a lot of successful high-powered business people. Here is an observation I find interesting that