Whilst helping couples with their marital crisis I see many people who are trying to control their life, they try to control their relationship, and those around them unaware they are the ones that are out of control.
People who are out of control need to control.
They don’t see the more controlling they become, the less control they have and so blind to this they strive for more control which of course they don’t get.
It’s an endless cycle of disappointment in others leading them to the conclusion the only person they can trust is themselves.
The beauty of life is in its uncertainty, there are no guarantees and you can’t control it.
Death, taxes, gravity there are few exceptions that you can be certain of.
So what if the people that are looking for ‘control’ actually changed their quest to wanting to add value to those around them?
Wouldn’t they naturally feel far more joy from the world around them?
The irony of a need to control is it actually creates less control because it creates less value.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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