Vic & Ali a wonderful couple full of love for each other, they could see an amazing future ahead of them. Their eyes were also wide open to the ups and downs married life could bring and so they came to me with a clear goal. They wanted to know how to effectively deal with the unexpected challenges they knew life would throw at them.
They were already aware that they needed help, dealing with existing external factors that had the potential to negatively affect their relationship and marriage together.
The Pre-Marital work I do for all couples is bespoke to their specific situation. We covered not only how to plan for the future they wanted, but also covered their own personal histories and specific individual needs so we could understand what could cause potential problems in the future.
The goal was to create a relationship that not just lasted but lasted with passion, no matter what challenges crossed their path…
On their wedding website they wrote:
Some people see a priest before their wedding day- instead we prepared for a long and happy marriage with help from Stephen Hedger.
In their own words…
“We went to Stephen for pre-marital coaching…”
The instigating factor was family challenges that we knew might have a negative impact on our relationship if we didn’t learn how to deal with them effectively.
We learned how to better manage that situation and were able to get married confident in our skills to deal with the inevitable issues life throws your way. But we also got so much more than that. We learned all about our values, the different versions of ourselves that present themselves in a variety of situations, we learned how to really listen to each other, and create a joint vision of what we want our married life to be all about.
We learned how to jointly decide what to do when several options present themselves and so much more. Stephen’s approach is warm and humorous whilst challenging you to be your best self.
I highly recommend working with Stephen for pre-marital coaching to any couple who are serious about not becoming one of the 1/4 who later divorce. It won’t protect you from the challenges of life but will arm you with powerful tools, ways of thinking and behaviours that will help you navigate your way through life together.
Vic and Ali Godding – Married on Friday 22nd July 2011
Sharing this journey with Vic & Ali has been a real pleasure.
It is always so refreshing to be able to help couples at the start of their lives together, to help them learn how to really understand themselves and then how to understand and contribute to each others wants, needs and desires.
They discovered how to create a heartfelt understanding that lead them to a solid foundation for trust, respect and certainty for the future. They are now aligned to live consciously together without the fear of not coping when times get tough.
I want to personally wish them every success and happiness, they are truly amazing people that deserve the very best!
