One of the first things a couple has to understand, is that the answer to their relationship problems is in the love they have to give each other.
What couples usually do is pull their love away when their partner does something wrong.
So in the relationship sessions the couple go through a process of understanding the importance of living by what they believe is important. Not only does pulling love away not create love, but it also creates a destructive conflict within the individual who is pulling away.
The result is a double hit of internal problems for the individual pulling away. They experince a lack of love from their partner and the inability to trust themselves to live by their own values and beliefs. This serves to further create feelings of a heightened lack of security, this feels worse and so the result is usually more punishment all round as their state deteriorates.
The sessions are designed to help the couple understand how to create the right versions of themselves. The version they will have created is one of fear that life was not going to be the way it should be for them. This is the version that is designed for destruction, and is very different from the version they used to attract each other.
One of the reasons this fear state would have been created is because the needs of the individuals has not been met by their partner, if this continued the result is the inability to see a future together and this is potentially catastrophic.
Failure to meet each others needs results in a conflict of some kind. This is driven by their automatic need for significance and security.
Most people get that significance through arguments, however if you think about when you first met a far better significance was created through your presence and love.
The response to this information is usually why should I be loving and giving when my partner has done all these bad things to me.
This where the key learning stage happens as the couple learns that what they think is not as true as they have historically believed.
What I have outlined here is the start of how I get fast results.
Unless you educate a couple to understand themselves and each other then how can they understand how to bring back the love they once had for each other.
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