When we experience relationship problems the natural response is to focus on what is happening in the moment. So what we do is focus on the problem.
The problem is usually just a symptom of the real issue and so whilst the couple may put lots of effort into trying to sort out what they think is the problem, their problem keeps coming back, frustrating the couple to assume that they could be incompatible.
Understanding what is at the root of couples problems is harder for couples to understand. All they know is they are becoming increasingly frustrated that their relationship is not working.
So what can couples do to sort things out. To start with do not focus on your problems, because all you will get is more problems.
The solutions are not in your problems they are likely to be in your past. The combination of your pasts will be creating behaviours that equal the relationship you have today.
Do not underestimate how powerful the past can be on the meanings you are giving your relationship today. After all, our survival is all about learning what equals danger and if in the past you have been hurt in someway then that will affect you moving forward and especially if the life condition feels similar.
Relationships are complex and so treating them as if they are simple might be easy to manage, but the results could end up hurting you more.
The biggest change you can make is to get educated on how your relationship functions, and what will give you all you want and what will destroy it.
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