So what do you do when the trust is broken so badly that their relationship ends with them selling their family home and moving into separate homes?
Most people would consider this the end, but this gentleman decided something different.
He wrote to me to see if I could help.
I wanted to encourage his desire to fight for his family.
I’ll always honour anyone who has the courage to step up.
But I didn’t want to give him false hope.
So I told him the chances of success were very low, but I was happy to help him as long as he agreed to do this my way.
I wanted him to learn how to become a better husband so that if the mission to get his wife back didn’t succeed, he would have some powerful life-changing skills that would help him be a good role model for his children.
He agreed.
As part of the onboarding process, I asked him what he felt was the biggest block to reconnecting with her; he said, “The lack of trust my wife has for me and her inability to overcome this.”
“She has told me that I have no hope in hell of being able to be with her again.”
This gentleman followed every instruction and started to rebuild her trust by showing her who he really was, but this time in the way she needed.
The following are his words to help you know that saving and rebuilding a relationship on your own is possible.
What were the problem(s) that made you seek Stephen’s help?
My wife had asked for a divorce, something that I was blindsided by, and I had no notion of what I was going to do moving forward.
After doing therapy for some time, I was not feeling myself nor felt like I was progressing towards anything meaningful, so I started to look in a different direction.
I came across Stephen from various internet searches. In truth, I initially thought it was a bit of a scam, but the more I looked into it, the more I found out.
The more I read, the more intrigued I became, and I felt it would be a good idea to see if this program could benefit me.
What results did you get?
Insight, acceptance, and a new level of understanding were things that I did not think were possible.
The main aim was to find acceptance in myself and regain my confidence in myself, but I also saw results that meant a reconciliation with my wife and no longer being on the verge of a divorce.
I also found a resilience in myself, a want and a desire to better myself as an individual.
It has been a long time since I have felt that and to have those feelings again brought about tremendous motivation for myself.
What exactly did you like the most about the “Marriage Breakthrough Program?“
That it’s not a process to win your partner, husband or wife back.
It’s a coaching ethos of understanding yourself and the way in which relationships work.
The ability to be coached rather than analysed is, to me, very different.
This program did not centre on previous traumas or blows; it sought to explore the notion that switching on a few different thinking mechanisms allows one to see and act differently.
Would you recommend this Coaching Program to other Couples/Individuals who might be on the fence?
100% Yes, the value I reaped from this programme is without question the best bit of money I have spent.
I understand myself better, I understand my wife better, and we have a deeper connection than when we were first together.
Do you have any other benefits you want to mention about Stephen Hedger’s Marriage Breakthrough Program?
The flexibility of the programme is great, as Stephen is very good at putting scenarios into real-life examples or breaking down situations that have happened.
This perceived level of thinking is a huge benefit of the programme. It provides insights to show that you are not alone.
What is life like now that you’ve been through this Coaching Program?
It is hard to describe what life is like now due to various things.
However, what I can describe is how I feel, and that is joyful.
Joyful in that reconciliation with my wife happened, joy in that we now share a deeper connection.
This is wonderful for me and motivates me in everything else I do.