If you’re having marriage problems and you’re struggling to solve it, your going to need marriage help before the problem gets too serious. Most couples in trouble have usually experienced problems that keep coming back and this is because of one key problem…
You are both doing something that’s potentially destructive without knowing.
So if you’re both not aware of how you’re contributing to the marriage negatively then this means the foundations of the marriage are compromised.
If the foundations are weak then it doesn’t take much to create fear in the individuals in the marriage.
Fear helps us pull our love away to protect ourselves from the pain our marriage is causing us. As soon as we protect ourselves by pulling love away in the moment we trigger fear in our partner.
This creates a vicious cycle which only escalates over time, this will continue to get worse until their is an intervention which interrupts the couples pattern.
The only way of changing the pattern is to help the couple understand how they have the power to meet their needs through understanding each other differently.
This is key to learn, because men and women are totally different in the way they think and feel. Unless you understand why, you’ll set an expectation which could set your partner up to fail.
If both people are doing this, which in my experience after doing this for well over a decade is what most couples do you must expect escalating trauma.
The key is to become curious to learn fast your marriage, your family are depending on you to be their guide.
Even if it’s just you, learn why you are in trouble and why your partner will never understand you.
If you want to get through and stop this pattern of destruction please get in touch today.
Don’t wait a year until your in crisis solve your marriage problems, Get marriage help with us today call us on 0845 519 4808
